How I Make People Feel Seen & Valued

I’ll admit, staying connected is easier said than done. Amidst busy schedules, life happening, days turn into weeks in a blur and you realize it’s been a while you checked in on your loved ones.

Somehow, I have been blessed with the type of people that even if we hadn’t talked for ages, when we do catch up, it’ll feel as if we’ve been talking every day.

Also, my friends and family understand that despite my need for space, if they need me at 2am, I’ll be there. My mum has said multiple times how much of a bad habit this is as it could put me in trouble someday. The bad habit? I almost make it a point to assist my friends if and when they need me financially.

See the thing is, I don’t think anyone finds it easy asking people for financial assistance. It takes courage and some sort of desperate situation to look away from the shame and fear of rejection and just ask. So, if any of my friends find that, I may be able to help, that would mean I am probably their first or last resort. Even if I don’t have, I make it a point to also borrow from someone to help me.

Luckily, I have a friend that calls himself my sugar daddy now, lol, he calls me a philanthropist because we are in such relationship.

When someone around me needs money for something urgent like completing their school fees, surviving for the week and if for some reason I don’t have the money at that moment, I always go to him. He already knows I’m never borrowing money for myself. One thing I am grateful for is that these people have my trust, whenever my friends reach out to me for financial assistance, I don’t hesitate to help because I know that they’ll stay true to their words and return the money.

But let me say this just for caution, I trust my friends but I’m also careful. I don’t render assistance that is way out of my capacity. Because I believe if something happens, this money should be one I can conveniently return myself or overlook without breaking a backbone.

I don’t see this as a “your friends only reach out when they need you” type of relationship. No, I am just trying to highlight how connected I am to them to the extent that even if it’s been a while we talked, they can still think of me when they need someone to help knowing that I’m always eager to render whatever help I can. Be it someone to talk to or financial assistance as mentioned earlier.

Now, personally, my passion lies in self-growth and femininity. Helping women build their self-confidence and self-esteem. And while my social media pages are already dedicated to this cause. I also make it a point to do this one special thing. Which is, handing out genuine compliments.

I have seen and experienced how compliments especially from a stranger boost one’s self confidence. So when I go out, be it an elderly woman, my boss at work, my colleagues, the lady in church or the guy that sells things at the shop where I buy groceries, I don't hesitate to give compliments like, “that color looks so good on you” “you have a really pretty smile” “oh wow, look at how that lipstick compliments you” “the way you walk is SO confident” “wow, you’re so intelligent”

Both online and offline, I make it a point to pass genuine compliments. Lol, in fact, most people online already know Mide and her sweet words. Kindness can also be practiced in words, I believe.

These are the few ways I stay connected not only to my humanity but also with others, in response 👇

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