Last few days. I am in middle of a peculiar situation. Peculiar in the sense, as I never been into such situation before. The situation is such that I am feeling struck and regretting of getting into it. But still wondering is it good to give up or stay alive to get the things done. It is after all for something better in life.
In my country arranged marriages is still popular and I find myself in course of settling one. I found a lead of a boy whose relatives approached me to find a match around my native place. I did my part and forwarded the boys portfolio to a distant relative who was looking for a groom. The girls family liked the boys portfolio and wanted to visit the family home for solemnizing marriage or to carry our further talk. In middle of all this I becomes a mediator sole point of contact between the two parties. In absence of any direct contact between the boys and girls family , I happen to be a middleman of all the talk that passes through. I thought it to be easy in beginning but now thinks I am putting my self-respect in line. The boys family who assigned the job to find the girl is not entertaining much now. I forwarded the girls profile to them, but they are nowhere now to take the talk further. The girl family wanted to make a visit and they wanted a date and time for everyone availability. But last few days I have been trying to fix the date but the boys family are not much into this. This made me like losing my patience over them. The girl family on the side set a high expectations from me for setting marriage in course.
Although I have nothing to do with either of the parties, now I am regretting to be a middleman, standing in nowhere land. While the girl parties is pressuring to formalized the meeting the boys side are not saying much word. They are kind of delaying the meeting. And in middle of all this ruckus I am stressed and ducking no where. I thought of calling off the alliance by conveying false message to the girls family, but on the other thought, formalizing a girls marriage is a good deed in our community. But finding the boys family unable to decide on the meeting I think it will somewhere hamper my understanding with the family. Is it good to give up on this and move ahead with my things in life.
Giving up on anything is the easiest thing to do in life. But my parents taught us to get to the end result. But in my case I am in doldrums just because the parties are not aligning properly. I could easily walk away with the mess without spoiling the relation, but it is not going to be so good. The way boys family behaving, i doubt i could be nowhere. I am in no man's land. The thought of holding the patience and continuing the marriage talks is what holding me through. But at the sake of losing my self respect.
I am wondering what could be the good option in this situation, either to back off or hold on the patience to see it through to the end?
In good faith - Peace!!
