Everything gets messy.
Once in a while, we may feeling lost, and we don’t really know what to do. But, what if other people are contributing to make us feeling that way? Is their judgement actually the perspective we need, to realize something that we can’t see yet? Or it actually make us feel even lost more than ever?
Have you experienced feeling down constantly? Like no matter what you try to do to improve your wellness, doesn’t help at all. I guess, at times like that we need someone else to accompany us. Someone that we trust can spend time having a casual but meaningful chat with.
We know some of those people in our lives. So coming to them feels like the right thing to do. It’s not a big deal, because we just need to talk to someone—just to get out of our own bubble and not even talk about our problems in the first place. But then, somehow the conversation gets as if we accidentally exposed ourselves by talking about our problems, and the response is not what we expected.
Have you ever experienced reading a sad book when you were also sad, so you gave it five starts because you could relate to so many things, but one day you read it again when you’re happy, and for some reason you don't feel the enjoyment of that five-star book because you don't feel any connection anymore?
That’s how it feels like. Its not that I want everyone to feel down when I’m feeling down, but talking to someone who seems to be content in the moment while we’re feeling at the bottom of life itself, doesn't always ends good. They don’t blame us for our situation, but somehow they make us feel lonelier than keeping it to ourselves. It feels like we can never get find a solution to our problems, when they always find a way. Its kind of make the room feel emptier, doesn’t it?
That’s when I realized, maybe it is about me. I’m the one who is not in the right headspace, so I couldn’t really appreciate their help or what they were trying to tell me. I trusted them in the first place, right? So why do I question it this time?
