Surrogacy method of child ownership

Hello everyone!

The child ownership pattern of surrogacy has become very common in our modern days, and as much as there are people against it, the number of people who have accepted it in this world is far greater than those who are yet to get comfortable with it.

A few weeks ago, I was communicating with a female friend who had given up on love, relationships, and marriage. She said that if she had her way, she would just get a child through surrogacy because she was not ready to go through the troubles of marriage and relationships. I smiled and wanted to kick against her idea, but I had to pause because, when carefully observed, this childbearing alternative is not actually bad if one is comfortable with the idea.

Apart from the subject of someone being tired of relationships and marriage and just wanting to have a child and live alone, there are other reasons why people opt for surrogacy, and it is not a bad idea because some of these situations can be very critical, leaving surrogacy as the only way forward—except one chooses to believe in miracles.

A typical example is a situation where someone is give birth, meaning they cannot medically conceive a baby. Once the person knows this and does not want to go through the adoption method, surrogacy becomes the best alternative.

In the days of our forefathers, this option was not available to them. Hence, they got into a lot of polygamous marriages and also faced many marital troubles related to childbearing.

To be very truthful, as much as it is a widely accepted idea in the world today, I do not see myself getting involved in it, and I sincerely hope I do not experience any problems or difficult situations that would make me consider it. As I said earlier, most people go into it based on the situations they find themselves in.

I am not into the "white man's culture," where many primarily prefer this method because it is simple and helps them avoid losing their body shape. No. My wife (of course, she is going to be a Nigerian) and I must follow the traditional way of childbearing and ownership.

Regardless, surrogacy is a good method, and I do not see anything inherently wrong with it. However, the challenge I observe is that people tend to abuse it or settle on it based on personal benefits rather than necessity.

I know people will kick against me for saying this, but I do not care. It sounds weird to me that someone would use the surrogacy method just because they do not want to lose their body shape after childbirth. Yes, it is so bad! Do not blame me—I am an African man. That is actually the aspect of surrogacy that I find unacceptable.

I cannot imagine having a child through such means and proudly saying that my wife chose this option just because she did not want to lose her body shape. No way!

Let surrogacy not be scrapped. Let it remain available and continue to serve the good purposes for which it was invented and introduced.

Thanks for reading.