STARTING EARLY

It's my dream to one day have kids of my own, whether biological or adopted. I aspire to one day train a human from infancy to the point of maturity, installing in them parts of myself with the hope that they grow up to be the very best they can be. I think there's a really good chance that I will not be a very strict parent, but rather a very mysterious one who would take every chance in installing life lessons in my kids. For example if I see my kids disrespecting myself or my wife, I could arrange to take them to an orphanage for sometime so they will have first hand experience of what it means to live without parents making them value the worth of a parent in their life. I know a lot of people will not agree with my methods of training, but then again, they are my kids so technically no one has more rights to do those things than me.

I value this method of training because I was brought up by strict parents who tried to the best of their abilities to be strict with intentions of shielding us (my siblings and I) from life. I later got to discover that a lot of the things they tried to shield me from were things I still ended up doing. My mum tried to be so strict with my sister so much that she prevented her from having male friends. Yet my sister had a boyfriend under her roof. If my parents know a quarter of the things I have done in my lifetime, I fear they might have a heart attack because they sincerely thought they had me under control and would be realizing that they never did. One time I got into an argument with my mum and tried to explain to her that there were a lot of things she didn't know about me. Her reaction to this information was not speaking to me for almost a month which made me wonder what she would do if she actually knew the things I have done.

I believe kids should be allowed to be loud, they should be allowed to express themselves from a very young age so they won't be timid growing up. However my kids will have first hand experience of their action repercussions teaching them that in life their actions have consequences. I will also try to reward them for hard work, teaching them that they can gain a lot from life. While doing this though I will let them understand that no matter how bad things get out there, they can always come home. I will try to motivate them to be at their very best, while not putting too much pressure on them to succeed at something. This is because I want to play the role of a father and a friend. This doesn't mean I will be closed, I see myself as a father that would know everything their kid is up to without that kid's knowledge.

For example, if my child were to enter a higher institution, the probability of having spy's among their friends and even orchestrating some of the people they would encounter would be very high. I'm the kind of person that can pay some of my child's professors to make things difficult for them in school, while I give the child tips on how to handle themselves during tough situations. This is not because I want to play god, but because I believe experience is the best teacher and the most successful people in life were people who had the most hard times but figured their way out. I believe in training my kids minds to face and conquer tough challenges so that they can handle themselves without my help.