A lot of persons have ended up to be in a bad spot because of misplaced priorities before marriage. Some people marry because of money, some do it because of the looks of their partner. You'll hear someone say "I need an attractive partner so my kids can be cute." Well, it goes beyond of all these, and if you ask me, I'd say that getting married to a friend isn't still the solution to getting a good marriage experience.
So, if someone was to ask me my standards for getting married to a man, I wouldn't know the exact thing to say because there are so many things I want out of my marriage. For instance, I want to be loved in the most beautiful way ever, but at the same time, I do not want a very clingy husband because that could sometimes cause harm in marriage.
I want to grow old together with my husband despite the odds that may come. Truth is, there's going to be misunderstandings, but I want to be married to a person that will still keep the smile in front of our kids even when we fight. I do not wish for my kids to ever know when their parents fight, and that's because I wish to be a role model to them.
Marriage is more than just the vows, the gowns, the flowers and the kisses. It's a lifetime deal that a single mistake can ruin. It's about waking up to see the same face everyday of your life, and never get bored or tired of that face. Sometimes I tell my friends that I'm scared of getting married and they look at me like I'm insane, but the truth is that I am indeed scared of marriage. What's the guarantee that whatever I saw in my partner wouldn't change after a few years of marriage? What's the guarantee that we won't get tired of each other? There are so many questions that I ask myself that are yet to be answered.
But if I must truly answer the question of what my standards are for marriage, then I would list a couple of things that one word could summarize.
The man I will marry must be someone I can count on, and he should be able to count on me too. He must be someone who would trust that I'll never betray him. He mustn't be led by his assumptions of what I may do to hurt him, and he must be willing to share his troubles with me. Of course I want a handsome tall man who's wealthy as well, but those aren't the key standards for me.
In summary, I have to be very comfortable with him for us to get married to each other, and he must be comfortable around me too, because once we're both comfortable, a lifetime of peace and love will surely unfold.
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