People often disappoint me. No, that's not quite true because I rarely allow someone to be in the position to disappoint me - people are unreliable at best and I prefer self-reliance. That doesn't mean I don't accept assistance, just that I'd rather td what I have to do for myself rather than having to rely on others.
People are often disappointing and even though I expect it - I have a low opinion of people until they prove they deserve a higher opinion - it still annoys me and makes me a little sad at times too.
Recently I was tasked to do a particular thing for work, an important thing. Unfortunately, it was something I was not able to do by myself and I had to rely on a couple other units and elements within the organisation; it was to be a coordinated operation and should have worked out well. It did not.
One of the elements, an individual, decided to operate at a suboptimal level, cut corners, do a "near enough is good enough" job and didn't put much effort into their part of the whole operation. And...the backslide happened from there. I was furious, and quite disappointed as I'd expected more from that person.
Note: I fixed the situation which took a lot of effort, additional resources and time...plus, someone will be getting fired I guess, and so be it; mediocrity should never be rewarded. I operate in a world of absolutes and there's no room for behaviours exhibited by that character.
The saying, if you want it done right, you have to do it yourself, comes to mind but it's not always possible to do that and having to rely on others is required.
The doctor, mechanic, the boss, colleagues, the person who prepares your food in a restaurant, cleans the cutlery and plates, the bathroom, the pilot in a plane, the engineer and builder who make the bridge over that deep chasm or a skyscraper, taxi driver...we rely on others all the time and quite often our lives depend on what they do. I fly a lot and if the pilot did what the person above did...well, I'd be dead for instance.
We rely on friends and family too, and I think that's one of the biggest issues for me.
I don't trust people easily so have a small circle of friends...it's a protection mechanism against being let down. But even then, I've been let down by people, taken advantage of (the curse of a generous person) and that hurts a lot mostly...and causes even more walls to go up. Right now, I'm not quite Fort Knox, but am close.
I wonder what your experiences have been in this regard. If you want to comment then do so below.
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