In this modern age, I don't know how to describe the method of upbringing, as this generation believes in practicing gentle parenting, stating that corporal punishment is too harsh and can traumatize a child.
In the 80s, my grandma would always tell me that it's a shame for a young girl to be caught misbehaving. Are you planning on disgracing your family? Back then, there is no female child who doesn't know how to cook, clean, sweep, or take care of themselves. As a lady, you can't stay out of your house late, except if you went for a dance practice or tales by moonlight.
Then again children who were raised in the 80s have more respect than the children who are being raised now. A child is being very rude and disrespectful to an elder, and the present parents see it as their child being outspoken and fearless.
In the 80s a child can't pass an elder without greeting him or her; it doesn't matter if you know the person or not. Back then an elder could correct a child if they saw the child doing something wrong, but now if you try to correct some people's child, they may take offense and ask you to train your child well first and leave them alone.
In the 80s, corporal punishment was more accepted and discipline was often stricter. Kids spent more time outdoors playing with friends or engaging in hobbies instead of being glued to the television. Children were often given more freedom to explore and play without constant supervision because they played by the rules and knew not to do things that would bring shame to their family.Family values, respect for authority, and traditional roles were often emphasized from a young age.
For our modern-day pattern of raising kids, a lot of things have gone wrong, although some things are better than before. Now parents encourage good behavior with praise and rewards instead of breaking their spirit with foul words, which our olden days parents were good at doing.
Parents teach their kids to recognize, understand, and manage their emotions. Children are being educated about technology, online safety, and responsible digital behavior. Fostering unique interests, talents, and self-expression. This self-expression is where most parents are getting it wrong; there is a difference between a child being confident and being rude, that's in the manners of approach.
Parents these days overprotect their children, limiting children's independence and resilience. They don't let their children mingle with the group of children they call bad. Then when some of them finally get into university, they become what the parents can't explain anymore.
Due to excessive screen time, most parents indulge their kids too much. When you buy a tablet for a child, you won't be there to control how it is used. Some children can watch television from morning till night or play games on their tablet all day.
In the olden days, there was pressure on women to marry early and on men to work hard. Presently, parents are creating undue pressure and stress for their kids. Forcing a teenager to start bringing money home all in the name of making the mother proud.
Due to lack of boundaries, they fail to set clear limits and discipline for the kids, overindulging them and giving children too much too easily. This behavior potentially affects their self-esteem and sense of entitlement, with the excuse that they don't want their kids to suffer like they did.
Children raised now have the right to choose their careers, unlike in the 80s. They are allowed to make their decisions by themselves, while 80s parents made all the decisions. In conclusion, the style and pattern have changed; some changes are good for the kids, while some are really bad for them. But a little bit of the 80s in the lives of today's kids will do more good.
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