Secrets require two things: a sealed mouth and quiet writing, in order to be true to oneself and others. That is why sharing experiences can be better and help others.
I believe that people can change, as long as they want to, set their minds to it and make the effort. Change is always possible, especially when the results in life are not what we want or expect.
Many people say that change is impossible or that at a certain age it is not possible. I believe that it is a lack of effort and willpower. If we do not like things the way they are, we can make them different, at least those things that are within our control. Not doing so is for some reason, comfort or a victim mentality.
I have changed a lot in my life; there is not even a shadow of who I used to be. The reason I did it is because I felt that the old me was not myself, as if the real me was imprisoned inside another me forged by ideas, beliefs, and education.
Perhaps I used to have a victim mentality, it's very possible. I justified everything to everyone, although I did so without any intention. I didn't know any other reality, but I wanted another reality, even though I didn't know how to achieve it. Perhaps the example I can give is that I believed that the bad things that happened to me were because that's how they were meant to be, perhaps fate, family heritage, I believed that I could do nothing else but live that life, those negative thoughts and asking God for help... that was what I had seen in my life and I believed that was how it was.
But they say that he who seeks finds, and I spent many years searching for answers and I found them. At first it is very hard, very hard indeed, it is like being punched in the head. What happened to me is my responsibility, or rather it is my responsibility to change my reality, to change my beliefs, my family mental programmes. That is hard work. They say it is harder to unlearn than to learn something new. Habit becomes easy through repetition, but getting rid of an ingrained habit is the most complicated thing.
Today I know that everything that happens to me now and in the future is created by me, through my thoughts, beliefs and actions. Let's not forget that thoughts are energy and therefore materialise into things. The world moves through action and reaction, cause and effect. I create my reality, no one else but me, and whatever happens, good or bad, is created first in my mind. Changing your mind is the key.
If I chose a bad job, it is my responsibility for focusing on aspects that were probably not the most important. If I do not make a decision in time, that has consequences, such as a failure to achieve goals. I am responsible for this and no one else. If I lose money or am robbed, it is because I did not pay attention. I am responsible. I am the one who chooses the things that happen to me, and therefore no one else but me is responsible.
Before, I was very affected or influenced by what I saw on television, the news, especially the negative news. I chose to watch it and it affected me more and more. I was immersed in a world of negativity, chosen... bad news, political news. If it was true, it would continue to exist, but it was me who allowed it to be in my life.
Today, I don't watch the news, especially political news, and if I hear about it, it doesn't affect me. I don't think about it. I know it exists, but I treat it objectively. If I let it affect me or spend my time talking about it, I would return to that world of negativity, and I am the one who decides what world I want to be in.
It doesn't mean that I don't know what's going on in the world, I do, but I choose not to let things I can't control interfere with my life. Wherever I focus my attention, that's where growth will happen, that's where I give my energy, so I choose to focus on something in my life that I can control and that is positive. The rest is there, and I am aware of the consequences, but I don't let them influence and determine my life. My change in mindset also takes this external aspect into account.
I am the one who chooses how I react and how things affect me. I have learned to control that aspect, at least when it comes to news and the media. For example, instead of watching political news, I prefer to watch videos about crafts or art, tourism, and even cats. I decide where I put my attention; it is my responsibility.
I found it interesting to relate two such good topics from the list of weekend topics that @galenkp always presents to us. Thank you for that.
Thank you all very much for reading today. I wish you a very good weekend. See you soon.
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