What does it takes to make friends? This might seem a normal question but I won't be shocked if am to get not so much normal answers should I make a study of it.
From my background, it is quiet right and not judgemental to suspect that, I am not one of the most open person most times since staying up with myself had always been a normal this thing.
One thing I keep asking myself is that, in the course of making new friends must we always paint people with the same brush and color or different brush with different colors. Are we to enhance our ability of giving each person we meet a fair trial without prejudice? If yes, then aren't we leaving our hearts unarmed to be broken by disappointment and broken trusts?
Sometimes we meet people we have heard so much about and it happens that once we don't prejudge them but decide to explore deeper into their lives we realize they happen to be the complete opposite of what we heard about them or in some cases not completely different but actually not to our level of expectations as per the info we have about them
Sometimes we find out that our suspicions about the people we meet are the truth but nothing else. But must we be judgemental and discriminatory in choosing friends? Yeah I know you might have the qualities you look for in a friend but ain't it interesting when you go out of your way to choose people who differ from your preference? Who knows what you might learn from them. Even when they're badder than bad you get the chance to at least advice yourself against certain decisions they made that has made them who they are now.
The long and short of this all is that, the making of a friend to me means accepting of others by not prejudging in order to give each person the chance to demonstrate their real selves without making assumptions about their personalities based on what you have heard rather than what you have observed of them.
We gotta understand we are all different and each of us is unique in our own way. Our differences are also in a good way with neither of us being better or worst than the other.
Friendship never happens unless you are willing to make it happen....