Divorce is a very big decision in the life of couples that can either make or break them. Honestly, I can’t really say much about that which we have here because i am still unmarried and most importantly i don’t really know much about divorce as i haven’t experienced it personally. I have only seen it from afar and the only knowledge i have of it is that which i have gotten from the movies and series i have seen on tv screens, and as we all know divorce is more than what we see on the tv screens, it goes way deeper, and only those who have either experienced it firsthand or have in one way or another being victimized as a result of it can only tell the story…
The end result of a divorce is a broken relationship if it’s just between a man and his wife but when a child or children are involved then the end result of such action is a broken family. We all know how those who are a product of a broken family are seen, preserved and treated in the society, some of these individuals are sometimes treated with pity while some other time they are treated with contempt, this is to tell you how some people choose to either be reasonable or so unreasonable in this regard…
I have only seen it from afar but haven’t experienced it personally, and non of my closest friends are a product of a broken family. I can only fathoms the level of pain those who are victimized by this go through, and this is not a pain I would wish on anyone but then the truth is that sometimes decisions like this are just the best, especially in a toxic relationship…
The end result of a toxic or unhealthy relationship is never something pleasant, and if an action like getting a divorce isn’t taken then a lot can happen, but then divorce should be the last resort in such situation. Divorce becomes a very tough decision when a child or children are involved, no mother would want to deprive her child or children the love of a father, but then a mother would only be able to mother her child or children when she is alive, hale and hearty, and to do this sometimes separation and taking custody is needed…
That is to say sometimes divorce is just a necessary evil, it is either this or that. Now that I think about it, I think i can relate more to this topic indirectly, and that is because i kind of got a particular flashback on something similar to this while writing this, but then i won’t want to delve deeper, i will try to stay on the surface…
I have said it before in my past paragraphs, divorce is only easy to an extent when a child or children aren’t involved, the moment a child or children are involved then it becomes harder and much more difficult for many reasons. The presence of a father and mother is needed in the life of a child, the absence of either can have a dire effect on the life or lives of the child or children. Now you see why so many mothers who go through a lots pain and suffering in their marital lives tend to endure it to the fullest extent, they do this just because they want their child or children to grow up in a complete family, thus hiding their everyday pain and misery from their children. This is not only applicable to mothers, it is applicable to both parents, I don’t want you all to get confused…
Honestly, when it comes to choosing between the trauma children who come from a broken family face or will face after a divorce and the mental health of the parent seeking divorce, I can’t really say which one should come first. I don’t even know from which point should I answer this question, is it from the view of a child or from the view of a parent, I can’t decide…
One thing I would say to anyone going through this is that they should RUN for their life when it becomes unbearable and extremely difficult, but make sure the custody of the child or children involved should be with someone who is mentally sane and extremely capable, with time everything will work itself out…
In conclusion, run for your life and take your child or children with you, train them in the very best way possible, and with time they will come to know the reason why such measure was taken many years ago but then it will be hard, which is why it will be a tough but rewarding journey…
THANKS FOR READING…
