Among my acquaintances there are two pairs. They are about the same number of years in marriage, something about 20.
One pair almost all the years of living together are trying to give birth to a child. Wife was 16 years old when they got married. A couple of years lived "for themselves." And then it turned out that his wife had health problems. And it began ...
There was everything. And long-term treatment, and surgery, and an unsuccessful attempt at IVF. All to no avail.
Another couple, more precisely the wife, has been doing all the years of living together to not become pregnant. When asked why there are no children, it answers that she and the children are incompatible things. Husband, on the contrary, very much wants a child. I do not know how this whole story will end, because the husband is already going to have a child on the side, but, as I wrote above, they are together for about 20 years.
As the saying goes: "How many people, so many opinions."
For some, children are the meaning of life. Such people simply do not see their lives without children, sometimes forgetting about their own interests. It is more important for them to leave their continuation after themselves. If the fate does not go to meet their desire for many years are treated by doctors, try nontraditional treatment, surrogate motherhood, adoption. Everything, if only to realize their dream.
The second, do not really think about the importance of children in their lives. Children from such people appear either accidentally (on a flight) or they just live "in the old fashioned way", if there was a wedding - there must be children. And it does not matter if there are financial opportunities and a roof over your head. They live on the principle of "God gave a child - give and money for a child."
Still others give birth to children, to give the relationship freshness and seriousness. A couple who has lived together for several years, passes a romantic relationship, as it were, stop in their development and in order to give the relationship a new twist they give birth to a child.
Fourth, they have children to keep a partner. When the relationship goes to "no" and the husband is already on the doorstep, the wife decides on the child, thinking that he will keep the husband in the family. But as practice shows, the child seldom keeps someone. And personally, my opinion, do not "glue a broken cup," nothing good will come of it. If for a while this is something that will change, then only for a while.
Fifth, believe that children and they are things that are not compatible. The meaning of life for them, constant self-development, career building, travel, entertainment. Children will tie them in the arms and legs. Such people usually do not care what remains after them. After all, what's the difference to think what will remain after you, if you are no longer there.
And why do you need children in your opinion? And maybe they are not needed?
