Some children when they are kids say they want to be like their parents when they grow up. Imitate them and look like them. But others, on the contrary, say: “when I grow up, they will see”, as a threat to their parents. It is for this reason that you have to set an example, inside and outside the home. Be the person they want you to be. As they say: “lead by example”. In the early years, their character is molded, and it is there where you have to instill ethical and moral values.
Nowadays, we have to learn with our children, above all, how to determine what it is they want? Likewise, I believe that the problem is not the upbringing, but understanding what they feel and deciphering their world. It is very complex and challenging, but not impossible.
We have to speak to them clearly and raspao, as we Venezuelans say. About bad people, monsters and about giving them the confidence to talk and say what is going on. Some parents, when children go through the stage of leaving toys behind and entering adolescence, panic. An attitude that I consider unacceptable, because from every point of view, the adolescent is their child. The adolescent is their child, the child they raised and educated.
Parents put all their efforts and dedication in the upbringing of their children. They have given him/her everything material and a lot of love. Also understanding, and setting limits without mistreatment or imposition. So, I ask myself.
What's going on? Where we fail as parents. I think it's not really that we fail, but that there are circumstances that don't depend on their upbringing. I watched a series on Netflix, recommended by users of the #Movies&Shows community, called
“Teenagers” and it has left me shocked, seeing how a son can go astray and become a murderer. Especially, the fact of not feeling any remorse.
What happens in the psyche of a teenager?
At what point, does the change occur? It will be true that the Internet is dangerous for the minds of human beings, especially children and adolescents. This topic is a matter of discussion and there are many opinions. Estefania Esteban published an article on May 16, 2018, on the page child guide, entitled:
“Children and Internet access”, where she gives her opinion and some important advice:
"This whole virtual, immediate and fascinating world can generate a compulsive, nervous, and addicted child, if there are no limits and adult supervision....” For more information visit
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There are actually so many things that children and adolescents are dealing with that I think it's not just the Internet. Not everything should be attributed, because there are many factors that also affect behavior. What will be the future of society and the planet? There are parents who give up their dreams and their lives to give the best to their children. They lack nothing, not even love. So what is happening? I do not know and it is irresponsible of me to talk about something I do not know.
However, I think it is important to note that, as they say: “every head is a world”, and some people tend to be influenced by others. Especially in the early stages and adolescence is when we are most susceptible. They can be influenced by friends, groups, adults, and others. I think this is what parents need to act on. To prevent children from holding grudges and saying:
When I grow up, you'll see...
Motherhood Parents, if other people, groups and the internet can get into their psyche and induce them, and drive behavior change, I think parents can do it too. You just have to have a lot of patience. Above all, you have to change the way you look at society and immerse yourself in the current reality that your children live, such as: social networks, technologies, video games, new trends, among others. They must understand that society has changed, and they must be prepared for the future.
"How strange it is that young people always think the world is against them when in fact it is the only time for them."
(Mignon McLaughlin)
