A nasty stalker will never give you peace.
I'm never one who spills the beans about my personal life online. But here goes...
4 years ago, I broke up with a narcissistic gf of almost 6 years.
I've moved on and continued to enjoy life with my family and my new partner.
Months later, I realized she still has access to an old Google Account. I had auto backups turned off on my phone and played with it. "Gave her a chance" to disconnect it by herself. But it continued on for almost a year and so I decided to disconnect the device myself, change passwords, and added 2-Factor Auth.
Of course, all this was done not without being petty myself.
Her move of having my account active on her phone synced up all her photos, the events she went to and the transactions she had as she went ahead scamming people with her "business". I used these against her, every time she decides to bother me.
It even escalated to a police report when she forced to bother us in our hometown. She's from Samar, not Cebu and she's been spending money just to stay as close to us as possible.
I thought I had a checkmate there.
See, revenge is never good. Especially the petty kind.
I got my old phone with a broken LCD fixed just last year. I used it for almost half a year until I realized that she previously had the phone connected to her cloud account.
Nasty.
She would send me emails during some of the roughest times of my life. It will go something like "I always dream about you, that you have a problem" offering us to stay at her place, to take her money or whatever help is offered.
She always has this "psychic" persona she kept bragging about while we were together. Bragging she was an empath, but it would take years for me to break through "matrix" and see through her lies.
She thinks I'd be impressed with the same crap.
Just recently I had a dispute with the place I once rented that my mother decided to buy. The owner got us scammed, sold it to someone else.
I kept screenshots of the conversations for legal purposes.
And guess who decided to come in as a hero to the rescue?
I felt the sense of urgency as she sent 3 separate emails at once, giving me her exact address, offering us a place to stay. This is when it dawned on me that she had access to my phone's gallery through the phone's cloud sync.
Finally got the phone hard reset. This is the part where she got worse. She insists that we get her help, forcing money through my brother (which gravely insulted him) and desperately sending me emails to get my attention.
This is the part when I decided not to feed her drama. Unfortunately, it's also the part that kept me low profile online.
I didn't want to give her access to my life. I had screenshots of my Hive in my gallery. She once sent me an email just when I published an article on Medium. The woman just can't move on.
Considering the nature of our breakup: seeing who she truly is and how evil she can be, I just can't continue feeding the made-up fantasy world in her mind. She has been very toxic during those 5 years, siphoning most of my money for her debts and show-off lifestyle.
And I'm not even the type who rants about these things.
I'm writing right now because I feel that it might be safe to go back. I always loved Hive, always find joy in writing. I love the freedom to voice out my writings in communities.
All this being toned down for someone so sick.
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