Is the sacred breath of my voice, and I need to set boundaries and get out of toxic relationships in everywhere. There is a lot of talk about toxic relationships as a kind of poison that we take without knowing what we are drinking and that we only realize when we are already lying on the floor writhing in pain... and a few minutes will be almost dead
But little is said about toxic people why don't we read the small print in which it says “this substance (energy) emitted by this person may be poisonous” and it is urgent to identify them when we have the poison in front of us to know which type it belongs to (real or symbolic relationships) and not weaken us, invalidating us and impeding our growth.
That's why, I have to stay in the right middle, why?
Because every relationship, bond has limits. The limits give us security and tell us about what is allowed and what is not allowed in the bond, in the relationship. They are changeable and very dynamic, they respond to our natural evolution, maturity and also to the form, frequency and intensity of the relationship.
It all starts and it's part of me.
It is a deep path, it reveals truths it is easier to look outside. Days ago on my entry during the weekend, I thought I'm tired. After a while, I concluded that working with me has allowed me to get to know myself and see who I am. I am going even though I know that this path does not end, but it gives me clarity.
The place I give as an example, is only the stage.
For example, an employment contract has very clear limits: schedule, salary, tasks to be fulfilled ... but it does not tell us anything about the unspoken rules of an office. That is why it is so important to listen to your voice because those unspoken limits sometimes cause pain, indiscipline, anguish, confusion and anger... because precisely those ambiguous spaces give rise to many actions that cross the limits of the other without realizing it.
Another example that I have also experienced in my own flesh, is about how hard it is to find yourself at the age of 60,that no one needs you anymore, that you are not in a world of technologies like this when what you learned at university was so empirical and of so much common sense. I have hit many walls here in my country and in the networks with this topic they are not interested in my experience or my knowledge of 45 years, they are only interested if I know about technologies... What about? And it's not easy.
I studied university degrees, in addition to post degrees and after evolving I realized that it was not what filled me, that I was wrong to think that that defined me, now I dedicate myself to something different, which also does not define who I am, but I feel happy to practice a new profession. I am more than studies or a certain role. You can change the packaging, not the essence.
Professional careers will always contribute to us, but they do not define us, nor do they limit us...
It's up to me to value what I know and enrich it with new skills. But new skills are never superior to my true essence... and this is shouted at me by my inner voice, ”just stay true to you” but I hadn't heeded it. In principle there may be a thousand excuses, not having time, domestic responsibilities, work, procrastinating etc. But in reality, I had not understood the call.
With doing and sharing, I was coming up with the key that my voice was trying to make me see: I need (not only do I want, but I need) to create spaces to set limits by linking up in a healthy way (mine) with other people.
One's own voice cannot be negotiated and being willing to do many things to achieve a goal, it has limits and when we do not recognize them it is very possible that we end up giving everything, even our own essence. Self-knowledge is the very process of life. Linking us to grow is supporting us to listen to our own voice.
I like being, where I can be.
For now, I continue reading aloud, and clear, to maintain my connection with my inner voice from freedom and deep respect for the professional and personal moment of each one to continue growing.
I finally, got out of my comfort zone,I have developed my resilience, I got my voice back, I cut my braids as a girl, I dared to cross the desert and everything grew back, including me of course.
Many times the obstacles on the way are placed by one self. I'm learning to identify them!
With this post, I take the opportunity to remind you that the inner voice is the sacred breath, in all our life processes. It is a very powerful path for self-knowledge. Really, he has a lot to tell us, it's like in stories, like in life, there are many versions of the same story.
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