Children are not puppets of parents

Parents are known as the divine gift, and there is no doubt about the statement, but it's not entirely true if I consider all the parents, as all the parents don't fit the statement. You may think I am joking, but I really meant it.

There is no doubt that parents are the ones who bring us into this beautiful world, take care of us properly, and raise us. They try their best to provide us with all the best facilities they can, even if they need to suffer for it. In fact, they don't hesitate to sacrifice many things for our betterment. I believe that except for some exceptions, almost all parents do the same.

As children, we should try to do our best to satisfy our parents and make them happy. I think it's one kind of responsibility of ours. But sometimes, some steps are like that; if we try to satisfy our parents, we become unhappy. I think good parents never want to see their children unhappy, but sometimes their actions are almost the opposite. I know that parents have good intentions for every step, but the outcome is not necessarily good for it.

When we were kids, it was very natural for our parents to make all the decisions for us because we were not capable enough to make our own decisions at that time. What kind of food we ate, what kind of clothes we wore, and what kind of strategy we followed for academics were fully decided by our parents. We have done those things for what we are instructed except for playing. In a word, we can say that our parents were the controllers of our lives, and even after growing up, many of our parents wanted us to abide by their instructions, and there was nothing wrong with expecting it. I think it's okay until they force us.

With time, kids start to grow up and start to understand many things. Based on their experience, they become more mature, and they can think individually for their own. After a certain time, they want to be free birds, but partners don't allow it because the fear is their children take a wrong way. The concern of parents is quite understandable and very logical, but I think those children never take the wrong way whose foundation is good. I think the responsibility of parents is to make their children capable enough to choose the right direction in life.

But we can see a different scenario here, at least in my country. I am not talking about myself; I am talking about the average kids of a family. Just take the example of hair. I don't like long hair, and I shorten my hair when it grows up, but some like to keep long hair. In that case, parents criticize them to cut their hair forcefully or by indirectly blackmailing. I don't think there is anything wrong with keeping long hair. Parents don't like it, but it doesn't mean the kids can't like it.

In the case of education, most parents force their kids to choose a popular major for a stable and secure profession in life. If kids are interested in those majors, then it's not a problem, but I have seen many students doing studies because those were decided by their parents even if they don't like it.

As an individual, having different opinions on one topic is reasonable, and sometimes it can be conflicting. When such a thing happens between partners and children, parents choose the way of dominance to shut up their children's voices.

Many parents want their children to obey all of their orders and satisfy them. They play a dominating role in that they don't allow their child to disobey their order. Those parents again feel proud, saying their kid is listing all of their words. I feel it's ridiculous because I think, why would a puppet/robot refuse to disobey any order? You heard it right. Those parents think of their child as a robot and do things as they want, like it was pre-programmed to satisfy users of the robot.

I think after a certain time, parents should not influence any decisions of their child, let alone make the decision on their behalf. At most, they can give suggestions, and I believe children naturally consider the suggestions of their parents. Parents should make their children capable enough to make the best decisions, and in that case, they don't need to worry about the decisions of their children.