Hello everyone welcome to my blog. I hope were doing great. I feel excited participating in this prompt. The topics really excite me and I will be sharing how my parent’s relationship influences my own relationship today.
That saying in the bible ‘’train up a child in a way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it ‘is very correct because a lot of children trained well by their parent tend not to depart from the way they were trained. Parents are the first people to set a good pace for the children to follow in their every sphere of life. They should by all means teach their children the right things since from childhood and it will be difficult from them to depart from it.
Though in the case of marriage and love, a lot of children have chosen to either replicate their parent’s dynamics and while some have things they tend to diverge from. I have seen so many families turn their homes to a war zone even when they have children and you will be thinking how miserable those children will be when they also enter into relationships. A lot of children find it very difficult to diverge from such dynamics hence they also replicate it in their relationships.
Looking back at my parent’s relationship I have come to realize that they are certain things about their relationship I will love to replicate in mine and some I will diverge from. I grew up to see a very lovely and a peaceful home and I kept telling myself that’s the kind of home I want to build for myself and my children. Each time my father goes out to wok I am very sure he always desired to be home to be with his wife because of the peace he enjoyed at home.
My father was a great provider we never lacked anything and my mum lacked nothing. Dad was always ready to provide everything we wanted and my mum has always been a strong support system for my Dad and also a great encourager always there to support my Dad this made them good lovely couples. I can recall how my mum was always waiting for my dad to return from work before she will have to eat and I will be like haba this woman why can’t she eat her rather than wait for her husband so one of the times I had to ask her she responded by saying she just loves to eat with her husband because it helps them bond together and I was like wow I could feel how much this two loved themselves and I do tell myself I want this kind of bond.
Even with this beautiful memories, there are few patterns I wouldn’t want to replicate is marrying a man who really does not take little advices from a woman thinking that a woman doesn’t really have a good advice enough. I am sure if my Dad had hearkened to my mum’s little advice I am sure he would have still been here with us. My Man should see me important to at least listen to the little advice I have to give it makes me feel valued and cherished so I would want my man to at least take my own opinions even though not all.
And also I do not wish to be a housewife have seen very many working class women who were able to work and still took care of the home and children this is one thing I am sure I was not going to replicate because my father was against my mum working he wanted his wife to be home to take good care of his children which I am sure mum was not comfortable but for the home to still maintain the peace it had she had to accept it.
So inasmuch as they had a peaceful and a happy home I still have a choice to choose to either replicate or diverge from their dynamics. My parents’ marriage was one of the best until my mum lost him. It actually saves as a guide for me in my own relationship.
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