You're not perfect, no one is - no surprises there I think.
I don't believe in the pursuit of perfection anyway and the concept of a person being able to attain perfection doesn't sit well with me; the pursuit of continual improvement is more attainable. Seeking continual improvement over perfection means a person can achieve great results and perform at high levels but, of course, people can be tripped up and fucked up in so many ways at any moment - life has a way of throwing curveballs.
There's happenstance, chance, wrong place and time and other people's actions to name a few...each can fuck up a person's life easily and, of course, a person can fuck up their own life as well...and many do. When things don't go well thoughts and attitude decline and that usually leads down a slippery and unproductive slope.
I've done it to myself in the past.
Not intentionally.
I've done difficult things in life, some things others would find inconceivable. I've had to act when others would not, to stand when others would not (or could not) and many of those things imprinted me with...with umm...I guess the memory of those things, the sights, sounds and the reality of those things - it seeps into a person's core. It has, to some degree, left me feeling...umm...well, just a little fucked up at times I guess, even though I've acted within a code of ethics, morals, regulations and rules. Sometimes the things we experience imprint upon us.
I don't need or want your pity and you extending it would be meaningless considering you don't know my story. I'm proud of who I am, of (most) of what I've done, and how I've done it; but one thing always leads to another and I've had to work my future life around my past life and that's not always been easy.
Unfuck it
That's what I did. Nah, it wasn't easy...isn't easy I should say because it's ongoing.
Maybe not daily. Ok sometimes daily.
I regularly have to work on ways to unfuck my life, confirm my reasoning, the justification for and validity of the things I've had to do and to ensure that my present is as best it can be. Nope, not easy but with effort certainly achievable.
How do I do it?
With discipline and hard work generally. That means I apply those things to the processes required for the unfucking of life and discovery of a better path forward.
Ignore and override? Nope, that's not going to work effectively or sustainably.
Fall in a heap and fucken die? Nah, that's not my style.
Blame everyone other than myself, the events that occurred, and expect someone else to solve the issue for me? No fucken way.
There's no short answer to how I unfuck things and sometimes the concepts are pretty complicated. Of course, a lot of the time it's not all that complicated at all, it just takes ownership to see and acknowledge the issues and what caused them then the discipline and effort to work through the various concepts and strategies that I know will help.
Easy.
No not easy, but worth the effort for sure.
So...you've got nothing to unfuck?
Bullshit. Seriously, you're lying. Everyone has something in their life to unfuck.
Or has in the past.
Or will in the future.
If you go around saying you do not, that's the thing you have to unfuck - your delusion.
You're not perfect, no one is, and there's no point in pretending you are...that just impedes and blocks the unfucking process...and if you need to be unfucked it's best that you're unfucked as quickly as possible because one day you'll be dead...and then you'll truly be fucked because it'll be too late to unfuck yourself.
Have you unfucked yourself? Tell me about it.
My advice, unsolicited though it is: Go get unfucked because life is too fucken short not to be unfucked. So go and get unfucked as soon as possible.
Design and create your ideal life, tomorrow isn't promised - galenkp
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