Marriage used to be something people longed for. It was once celebrated and esteemed as an achievement in life, but today, marriage is something people are scared of.
A slight mistake in picking a partner can ruin one's life and that of the children entirely, except God intervenes.
I have seen people who were once very happy, but as soon as they got married, their lives became miserable.
A lot is happening in marriage today, and people are tired of enduring, some in the name of being patient and enduring, lost their dear lives.
Marriage that is supposed to be a union that will bring light and hope to the two individuals has now become the darkness and pain hunting their happiness, health, and life itself.
As such, divorce is now the deal of the day. Marriages are no longer holding, people are tired of taking risks that may jeopardize their lives, they are tired of keeping quiet and living in prisons, even as free beings for the rest of their lives.
It hurts me whenever I see a couple going their separate ways, but the truth is that sometimes that's the best thing to do, if not one or both of them may suffer till death.
Once a home is toxic and the marriage is already crashing, I am afraid that the home is in trouble and everyone involved in it will suffer, both the parents and the children.
Now, as a parent, if you successfully get a divorce and you regain your peace and happiness. You start up a new life and do away with your horrible past, how about your children?
As much as I want parents to live happily and free, I am also very concerned about the children.
I have been privileged to be around a few kids whose parents were divorced, and I know what those kids went through in life, especially when either of the parents they lived with decided to get married to another person.
The kind of frustration and hardship some of them face is something that words can not describe.
Aside from the issue of suffering from a step-parent, those kids also suffer from a lack of morals, their lives may look incomplete. They may end up becoming weird, depressed, loners, introverts, and probably have low self-esteem.
It's always different when both parents, especially the biological parents, raise a child.
Considering the implications attached to divorce, I bet it is better if one doesn't get married in the first place than getting into it and then getting divorced.
It would be easy if you didn't have kids yet, but if you do, I don't think you will ever have that liberty you think you are looking for.
I won't advise anyone to stay in a bad marriage, and at the same time, I don't think it will be great to leave the children. Imagine how their lives would turn out. And children are our future, if they turn out to be corrupt, that shame would be for you as the parent as well.
For me, there is no way out; either way, it's like a dead end. Whether you leave the marriage or stay in it, your peace would still be at stake because your hearts will always be with your children, and you will still be in trouble.
So, if I am in that situation, I just have to give up the so-called peace I think I may get from divorce or not getting a divorce, because there is really no peace once you are at that point.
It's such a difficult situation, and I don't pray for anyone to fall victim.
But it depends on what the situation is, moreover, I am a man, we are not as emotional as women, and we are also considered stronger. If you are in a kind of marriage that involves physical abuse. And you tried to make it work and it didn't, you'd better save yourself before it ends your life.
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