There are things you can keep to yourself as secret, never to tell anyone or anybody and even took it to your grave. And there are secret things you have to share with other people, it doesn't matter how hard and tough is it for you, you have no choice to keep it to yourself alone if you want to keep some certain people in your life. For example let say, you came across a notorious criminal or kidnappers in the bush while they were discussing and you hide yourself so they won't see you, finally you left the place sounds and without been caught by those kidnappers in the bush.
This is a secret because nobody else was there with you in the bush while it happened, and saying it out to other people will endangered your life and put your life at risk. But then when it comes to marriage, couple living together as husband and wife should not keep secrets from each other. Because any secret you try to keep from your husband or wife, can later destroy your life and even jeopardize your marriage.
There are people we have in our lives that loves us and care about us, such people we should not keep any secret from them. When you love and trust someone, you can even tell the person your secret and share your experience and challenges with the person. Words flies and travel far away beyond you could imagine. I will say keeping this secret to yourself is far better than sharing it with someone. Telling someone about how you escaped in that bush by hiding from the kidnappers and telling them the kind of people you saw in the bush is a big risk to you and your family entirely.
Let me share with you people what happened between this man with his wife he married three years ago. This man was having this health problem, he was diagnosed and founds out he have low sperm count. The chances of him impregnating a lady is rare, not possible to impregnate a woman. The man knows he have this problem and have been undergoing treatment yet he didn't tell his wife, even though then they're just dating and finally got married. Even after their wedding, the man could not be able to open up and share the secret with his wife about him having low sperm count even though he has been treating it all this while.
A year, two and three years of marriage he didn't told the wife this health challenge secret he kept from her . And the painful part is that all this three years the woman thought the problem was from her, possibly because of excessive infection in her body that block her womb and make her unable to conceive a child or children. All this while, the woman has been treating her self, taking antibiotics and all kinds of different drugs both medical and herbal drugs, just so she could conceived and have a child.
Just one day, she was cleaning and arranging her husband's clothes on his cubboard or wardrobe and finds some drugs tablets inside. She took the drugs and read the heading just to finds her husband have low sperm count and not for once he ever told her about it. She said she cried her heart out that day when she finds out her husband has been keeping such a secret hidden away from her, the wife. And she thought she is the one to be blamed for not getting pregnant not knowing is the husband's fault. She took the drugs tablets and confronted the husband when he came back home that day and he felt ashamed and disgrace for not telling her that truth all this while thinking she won't marry him if she knew he have low sperm count,and that the chancing of him impregnating a lady is very low.
The woman wanted to park her clothes and belongings and leave the marriage but people came and intervened and pleaded with her to stay and forgive him. She stayed back and both of them came to our facility with the previous laboratory test result to meet my medical director for counseling. And fortunately the result shows the man sperm count has risen than the previous ones, it means the drugs is working affectively and is boosting his immune system. With the current result the man brought to my medical director, a chance of him impregnating a lady is very possible.
So, there are secret one can keep to himself and there are some secret you share with your wife, husband and even friends and parent to help you out with it. A secret problem shared with trusted person is half way solved already. To keep and maintain some marriages, relationships and friendships, you got to open up yourself and share whatever secret problem you have to someone. If you don't share some secret problems it will never be solved but when your problems, is it at the verge of solving already.