When you go out for dinner, how does the meal go?
Obviously it would depend on who you go with. What if it is your husband and he is in a bad mood? Yesterday we went out to eat. I knew what I wanted but I asked him where he wanted to eat to make sure he got what he wanted.
We got to the restaurant, I knew what I wanted. The waitress asked us for our drink order and then she came back, she asked if we were ready to order. I looked at him and asked him if he was ready and he said no in a snarky way. I felt uncomfortable and the waitress left. He asked if I was ready and I told him I was because I already knew what I wanted. I guess he didn't like my answer and rolled his eyes. A few minutes later the waitress asked if we were ready and I looked at him to get an answer. He looked upset and said "sure" and I proceeded to order. When it was his turn he order a small item. After the waitress left I asked him if that was all he wanted and then said that he didn't know what he wanted and needed more time.
WHAT THE HECK!?!?!!? I told him that he could have asked for more time and he said he just order because of me. During the time we waited for our food he got mad because he couldn't open a stupid straw and threw it across the table. I tried to help and he was mad because the straw was broken (it wasn't). He didn't talk to me and he was upset there were kids sitting at tables next to ours.
All this made me feel sad. I just felt like crying seeing his behavior. When he gets mad, he acts like a child and I have to deal with it, but if I get mad, then he thinks its stupid. So I have learned to not get upset around him. I have to hide my emotions. When I am upset I try to think of happy or silly things just so I can smile around him.
I am not saying he is a horrible husband, but the way he acts sometimes makes me think that is the way he wants to hurt me. He is not violent, he loves me, and he tries to make me happy even if he sometimes it doesn't work. I still appreciate all he does and feel bad if I get upset and his effort.
I guess this story is a silly reason to be upset but maybe as I express more feeling I might have a reason to be upset.
Do you think I am wrong? Should I think differently? What should I do?