The only thing I found not palatable is divorce, most especially how it's going to affect the children.
A couple who got married about 5 years ago had a little issue. The issue was just the fact that the woman caught her husband cheating. Marriage is for better or worse, and trust has been broken when things like this happen.
She had been suspecting her husband of having an affair with their neighbor but had not caught them red-handed. One evening, she only took the excuse of going to see her uncle, who resides at a distance away from her home (about a 30 minute journey). This means she would be spending no less than 2 hours. The husband had calculated the time and the time he was going to spend with their neighbor.
After making an excuse, she left with their daughter. A few minutes later, her husband had to call their neighbor to come around. Their neighbor asked, “You know I cannot come because of your wife. She must not find out about us”, she said.
“Don't worry, she has gone out with my daughter and will be coming back 2 hours later”, the man said.
This gave his neighbor relief. After a few minutes, she found her way to this man's house. She sneaked just so others wouldn't see her. He had to take her to his daughter's room. They forgot to lock the door, and immediately, there was a knock on the door. After the knock, the door was opened, and someone entered. He thought it would be someone in the compound. So, he decided to go to the parlor to have a look. When he got to the parlour, it was his wife and daughter. It was not easy for the lady to go out, and the wife began to sense some wrongdoing in her husband's speech.
“Why did you come home so early? I thought you were going to your uncle's place,” he asked as his voice was shaking. Anyone who listens carefully, and even a baby, would know that something is not right with the voice of the man.
“He's not at home”, she replied. She later went straight to her daughter's room and found their neighbour on her daughter's bed. She got angry while the woman fled, rushing.
This caused a divorce, but then the man realized his mistakes after seeing some effects on his daughter's well-being. This divorce caused them to lose the face of their daughter. In return, their daughter was not concentrating on her education the way she had always done before their divorce. Her class teacher began to complain about her quiet attitude in the class. When the teacher had to find out, he discovered that it was the parents' divorce that was causing her to lose concentration in the class.
Back to business:
It is not easy, but one just needs to do what's needed in a relationship just to sustain trust. It's also difficult to trust, but then when we lose the face of trust in our partner, it will cause serious problems in the lives of the children. We may not be the receiving end, but the children would be the ones to suffer.
To avoid this altitude, we just need to do what is necessary and stay away from what will cause us to lose our partners.
Divorce may be the next choice if there is a case of molestation, but when it is not, divorce should not come first just to keep the life of the children safe. Or better still, the woman had to leave the house for some time just to clear the air.
The daughter of those parents has to suffer serious problems in her school just because of the divorce. The question now is: “What if he put on the same character again after the settlement?” Most people may advise the woman to come back just for the sake of the child, which, I think, is the best advice. In a case where molestation is involved, going back will not be the best option as such women may die before their time. So, to avoid that, the best is for the two to go their separate ways, or better still, the woman will go away for a while until everything is settled or until the husband is normal and ready to accept her back. I'm this case, the child should not be told about what's going on between them.
The parents may feel satisfied after the divorce, but the child’s well-being will be distorted. He or she will not be settled, both in the mind and outlook.
No one is praying for divorce.
