The art of doing good.

There was something I learned before leaving my hometown last week and it wasn't like something I didn't know or haven't heard a lot of time, but that incident which happened in my family gave me more reason why it is good to put up a good attitude. There has always been the phrase: be good and act good. We all know what benefits are there in doing good even though some people have made the act regrettable for us whereby we don't feel like showing good to others. Nevertheless, it doesn't stop us from doing our quota and not expecting anything in return from those we have helped.

In one of my previous posts, I talked about the bike accident my cousin was involved in on New Year's Eve with some internal injuries and scratches on his back. I learnt something big from that incident and it is something I am reminded of that being good to others will give you a big advantage and make them love you.

My cousin's dad attended church service on New Year's Day and when he returned, he gave us some bad news about my cousin because no one, except a few elders in the church came to visit him to know how he was doing. He is the youth leader of the church and none of the youth came to say hi. This pained him and on hearing what people were saying outside which his dad got to hear about, he got angry and decided not to attend church anymore. When the matter was brought to the table in the evening after the night devotion, we stayed back as he said he would want to talk to us and hear our opinions.

I sat back, ready to listen to whatever he was about to say. Then he began by sharing with us what his dad heard while on his way from church. According to the father, he was lucky to listen to the other youth members while on their way home. Unknown to the members, my cousin's father was walking behind them and they began talking, blaming and criticising my cousin. They talked about his bad attitude towards them in church and how he never put up a good act or tried to be good to them. Some wished him dead while others were just listening to the conversation. Of course, this discussion made his dad sad about what they were talking about his son.

I was the first person to air my opinion which I told my cousin not to let those bad words make him sad but to be a channel and opportunity to change his bad attitude towards people. I made him realise that it is what he does at home too because he has never been a good guy or behaved in his best manner. He will be clocking thirty years by September and I told him I had expected him to behave like a mature being and not one that will always act like a kid and still be pushed to do things. His ways of life aren't encouraging at all and I tried to give my piece of advice on how to use this negative criticism as a way to change.

I made him understand that it was God who made the scene happen and made his dad to be there so he could learn his lesson from the incident. If he had been good to those youth members and also acted like a good leader to them and everyone else, no one would force them to come visit him for what had happened but his attitude is what we are used to, even his sister also confirmed and testified to his bad attitude.

Everyone will reap whatever they sow. I was impressed by my younger sister who shared a video of how her team members at work were sad when she was leaving the company. They didn't want her to leave because of her diligence and attitude towards others. I heard many testimonies of her selfless act, cooperation, love, attention etc towards her work and to others and it was as if they wanted her to stay back. When you do good, good will follow you.

Yes, it is possible to see people who would not like you as you cannot please everyone but it doesn't stop you from showing good to them and never minding what they say or do to you. Being good pays and that is something that will make some people love and want to be around you, but when you are a bad person, they move away from you and when something happens to you negatively just like my cousin, they won't wish you well as they would be happy. Remember if you leave the position you are occupying, others will replace you but your attitude will determine whether you will be remembered or not.