Hola a todos los miembros y lectores de esta hermosa comunidad azul, les saludo con mucho cariño deseando que estén muy bien, disfrutando siempre de las bendiciones del Dios Todopoderoso.
Para mí siempre es un gusto inmenso cada vez que comparto con ustedes mis experiencias y punto de vista, al igual que leer el de ustedes.
En esta oportunidad les voy a compartir un tema bastante controversial, pero que considero es necesario abordar para obtener las herramientas necesarias para nosotros y para nuestros niños.
Hello to all the members and readers of this beautiful blue community, I greet you with much affection wishing you all well, always enjoying the blessings of the Almighty God.
For me it is always a great pleasure every time I share with you my experiences and point of view, as well as reading yours.
This time I am going to share with you a very controversial topic, but one that I believe is necessary to address in order to obtain the necessary tools for us and for our children.
Today I am going to talk to you about a meeting that took place at school, where among other topics, we talked about the complaints or concern that a mother had because her son was afraid of a child who, he said, was "strange".
It turns out that she was referring to an autistic child who was trying to adapt to this environment and to these people who were totally unknown to him, and of course there were many things there that altered him sensorially and he resorted to stereotypes to regulate himself. It should be noted that the teacher clarified that the child did not show aggressive behaviour towards himself or towards his classmates.
But these stereotypies made the other child frightened to the point of not wanting to go to school, so the solution his mother suggested was that the autistic child should study in a school for special children where, she said, all children were equal.
Y por increíble que parezca, algunas madres le daban la razón. La otra madre estaba completamente destrozada, se notaba en su rostro, ni siquiera imagino todo lo que ella pensaba y sentía al escuchar como su niño era atacado y discriminado.
Aquello fue un gran debate sobre los derechos de ambos niños en cuestión.
No les mentiré, yo no emití ninguna opinión ese día, me limité a sentarme y escuchar.
Pero hoy, después de tantos años, daré mi opinión.
And incredible as it may seem, some mothers agreed with her. The other mother was completely devastated, you could see it on her face, she couldn't even imagine what she was thinking and feeling when she heard her child being attacked and discriminated against.
It was a big debate about the rights of both children in question.
I won't lie to you, I didn't have an opinion that day, I just sat and listened.
But today, after so many years, I will give my opinion.
Both children deserve respect and consideration, yes that's true. But at the end of the day each one of us is unique, so your child is going to go through life pushing away everyone who is different from him, it doesn't work that way, and another thing, if you have another child and this one is autistic, what will you do? Will you separate your children because they are different and they can't live together?
As adults we should not be so selfish and try to isolate and hide those beautiful blue children, ignoring the great work that is behind each one of them, the work of families and specialists who struggle every day to provide them with the necessary tools to make them adaptable and independent children, young people and adults.
Faced with these situations, I think the best thing to do is to talk to the children at home, explain to them that each person is unique, and that in different ways we seek to be in balance and feel good. Explain the subject to them in a simple and clear way, and instil in them inclusion and respect for others. So it is easier and more sensible to educate your child about these issues, so that they understand that it is not wrong for another child to be different, because in the other child's view, you are the one who is different.
No pretendo atacar a ninguna de las dos madres, porque al final cada cual busca lo mejor para su hijo, pero no estamos solos en este mundo y tenemos que aprender a convivir y a incluir. Creo que muchas veces estas cosas no se hacen con mala intención, sino por falta de información, pero como adultos es nuestra responsabilidad educarnos y educar a nuestros niños, porque, aunque sea sin mala intención, en la otra parte duele y mucho.
Cierro este post con una nota que he leído y que desconozco su autor original “Mamá, mi hijo pasa varias horas a la semana recibiendo terapias para que aprenda a jugar e interactuar con el tuyo, te pido por favor que solo tomes 10 minutos de tu tiempo para explicarle al tuyo cómo jugar e interactuar con él mío”
Esto ha sido todo por hoy queridos amigos.
Les deseo muchas bendiciones.
Los leo en los comentarios.
I close this post with a note that I have read and that I don't know its original author Mom, my son spends several hours a week receiving therapies so that he learns to play and interact with yours, I ask you to please take just 10 minutes of your time to explain to yours how to play and interact with min.
That's all for today dear friends.
I wish you many blessings.
I read you in the comments.
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