Last Christmas, a niece invited us to hear her singing carols with her church choir. Latin, Romanian and a few English carols, among which one I found very intriguing - ‘Mary Did You Know?’ The song goes through all the good things baby Jesus will bring to this world, how the child will rule the world and so on. Not a word about the price Mary will pay for all that. Yes, Jesus pays the ultimate price, but that’s his choice and he can take it up with his heavenly father. In this story, Mary doesn’t have a choice. Mothers in general don’t have much of a choice. Mary is the archetype of the mother who is bound to suffer for the infant she cradles in her arms. This struck me as odd, listening to those joyful carols. Christians have every reason to rejoice at the news of the divine child, but hardly anyone spares a thought for the poor mother.