I saw on the news today that a woman jumped off a bridge and killed herself in Lagos, Nigeria, yesterday.
Surprisingly, this did not surprise many people, as many people have previously chosen this location as a suicide spot.
In the last three years, there have been reports of two to three people jumping off a bridge in this location, preferring a gruesome death to having to face life.
Life is not all we think it is.
It is surprising that, as wonderful as many people think life is, some would rather escape it than have to live it. Shouldn't we all have the same notion that life is beautiful?
Unfortunately, we do not all agree. Some people will choose to live life over and over again, while others will try desperately to avoid it.
The gift of life is unparalleled; let us consider it from a neutral standpoint: the memories we create, the ability to feel, comprehend, learn, and grow, among other things.
However, there are some challenges that we face, such as the difficulties that come with it. Sometimes the difficulties are so overwhelming that people would rather not live them at all.
We don't all have problems, don't generalize
but we share some, in our lives; this is undeniable. When we see people in pain, we often say things like "we all have problems."
Unfortunately, people react differently to their problems, and we cannot teach them how to deal with their pain.
It is true that people choose various ways to cope with their pain, and suicide is no exception. We agree that suicide is at the extreme end of the spectrum, but for many people, it is the only permanent way to end their suffering.
The creator gave us life and would not want us to end it. Unfortunately, some people are born with medical conditions that make them prefer anything other than life.
Trauma is real
For some people, being in debt, not having enough money to get by, family trauma, PTSD, victims of bullying, trauma, and a variety of other issues make it difficult for them to see the beauty in life.
People continue to live because they have attachments, commitments, and responsibilities. We frequently underestimate the power of attachments.
People are able to tolerate abusive relationships because they have humans (children) to whom they feel attached.
Sometimes we are not even living our lives; instead, we are living them for others, perhaps those we love and cherish, and that is fine. Every reason to live is a valid reason to live.
Having an excuse to keep going is not a bad thing. No matter how big or small, we are all striving for something, and this is how we maintain our sanity.
Unfortunately, not everyone can maintain their sanity, and they succumb to all temptations. We each have something unique that keeps us going. For a few, it is the love of their wealth and the luxurious lifestyle they enjoy.
There are strange reasons why life is enjoyable, and it is different for everyone. We can not all have the same reasons because we are unique. The lesson is to find something to hold onto.
It could be God's love, the hope of eternal life after this life on earth, or simply because life will be worse for those we leave behind.
The suicide psychology
The compound statement is that life is beautiful, but it makes more sense when we are connected to something.
I can not explain the psychology of suicide, so I will not sit here and say it is because suicidal people have nothing to live for, and I do not think it is depression.
Suicide is interconnected with a deeper psychology. Perhaps it is the point at which people are completely broken, or even more.
I have been through a lot in my life, but I have never considered suicide, which is probably why we should never underestimate the reasons for suicidal tendencies.
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