As an adult-diagnosis ADHD kid, I was so confused by my teachers all talking about how I had great potential that I wasn't fulfilling, and I was frustrated. I didn't understand that other people's brains worked differently, and understanding that gives so much useful context (like, other kids had ADHD in my class, and were diagnosed, but I presented differently). Being in my 20s and 30s and not yet diagnosed, I felt SO FRUSTRATED. I got diagnosed at 41. I don't know if being in your 40s means you become more ok with achieving what you achieve or if being diagnosed means that I'm able to recognize where I am and work towards things that matter, but I'm much more at peace lately and therefore also more able to pursue what matters to me. I think hearing that whole "potential" thing throughout my childhood led to a lot of trying to fit what I imagined "success" looked like and that meant that I wasn't actually headed toward where I wanted to go.