Yesterday, I and my wife went shopping for clothes that she wants to use for her birthday photoshoot. I did my best to help her pick what she'd like to wear but our venture ended up being inconclusive.
We originally got in with an idea of what we wanted in mind but on reaching there,plans changed ever so slightly but just enough to derail the shopping plans. I'll be in the office today and won't be able to go with her as she revisits shops to decide but in the process, I learned something about myself.
I and my wife have a different approach to decision making. This difference has helped us along the way. When it comes to decision making, it is sort of a ying-yang dynamic between us.
You see, with me, decision making comes easy. I simply think of what I want to do and then do it. It is not a healthy way to live but at the same time, it works for me because I unconsciously streamline the variables to accommodate my decision making. This then helps me to easily accept my decision without thinking about any other alternative.
The upside of my approach is that I don't take a long time to make a decisions. The downside is that I obviously won't always make the objectively best decisions.
My wife, on the other hand is meticulous by nature. When she makes a decision, she probably has weighed out multiple variables, scenarios and envisioned all the possible options. She looks at all the options and likes to ensure that her decision is the best.
The obvious upside to her approach is that she often makes the best objective decisions and she also doesn't leave any information to chance but takes longer to decide. This is why she's in charge of everything that has terms and conditions because she actually reads them. If I didn't have her with me, Lord knows how many times I'd have fallen victim to nefarious actors.
I often watch her in awe as she scrimmages with options at her disposal. In my mind, they all seem like viable options but for her, it is about ensuring she picks the best of the lot.
Choice is a burden and one that I actively try to avoid. Sadly, it is unavoidable and my only hope is that when the time comes to make a choice, it'll be between different favourable options.